10+ Years

Today would have marked my mother’s 75th birthday had she lived. It seems strange to me that it’s already been just over 10 years since she passed away. Recently I read a quote which really resonated with me. It simply read “Grief changes shape but never ends.” (Keanu Reeves) When someone dies you wonder how you’ll live without them. Then, as time passes, you learn that you can go on but you cling to the memories. I doubt a day goes by that I don’t think of my mom. It may be a fleeting thought or it may be more deeper and longer…a memory of something we did together. Although I miss her very much, I don’t really feel the stinging pain of loss anymore. It’s kind of morphed into something gentler, softened still more by the warmth of the memories.

This photo is one of my favourites. It was taken about 2 years before she passed away. She had come to visit and to see her first grandchild. She was unable to hold him without the aid of the pillow, but, as you can see from her smile, she was absolutely thrilled. I remember that moment like it was yesterday and I’m so happy to be able to hold on to it.


Love you, Mom. Happy birthday.


11 thoughts on “10+ Years

  1. What a beautiful post. You took the words right out of my heart. I lost my mom 16 years ago and I can’t find a better way to express my grief that mellowed over time into a sense of nostalgic endearment but to echo yours.
    Thank you dear friend.

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  2. I totally agree with Keanu Reeves. Fortunately, my mom is around and in good shape. But my dad passed away so young many, many years ago. I cherish the few moments I remember having wth him.
    Huge hugs from Peru.

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  3. Lovely post, Izzy. I remember your mum fondly, and can’t believe it’s been over 10 years since she passed away already. That is a beautiful picture of her. xo

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  4. Your post brought tears to my eyes. Thank you Izzy for expressing your loss and love so movingly. My mom would have turned 100 this September. It’s eight years now since her death, and I think of her now more often than when she was alive. I never met your Mom; what a lovely photo.


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